The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity - by Steven Kessler

As we attempt to understand the psychology of success and become successful ourselves, studying the habits of successful people is not enough. To create real self transformation, we must dissolve the obstacles to success buried within us. To reclaim our power and regain control of our lives, we must uncover the old safety strategies and patterns that still run our lives so that we can heal and transform them.

Review from Drew: This is the book that I think of when I hear the phrase “don’t judge a book by its cover.” It looks like any self-help book that your dad might get you to read on outside, but inside it is fucking brilliant - the best psychology book that I have ever read. Kessler mixes human development psychology with energetics in such a powerful, Truthful way that I think this should be required reading for anyone on a spiritual healing journey.  

The basic premise is that most humans will go into one of 5 survival patterns when they are distressed: leaving, merging, enduring, aggressive or rigid. Which pattern you go into is coded into you by things you did / did not receive during the early stages of your development. The book will help you diagnose yourself and give you real strategies for how to break out of that pattern in order to spend more time with your real self.

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